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Monday, October 29, 2007

Manic Monday

Lisa has come up with another bunch of intriguing questions for today's Manic Monday.

1. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be and why?

Hmm, this is a tough one. Childhood was not much fun for me a lot of the time, as my family was under a lot of strain, something which I'd rather not discuss in detail. But if there was one thing I could change above all else, it is where I was raised. I grew up in a tiny village in West Wales, in a very unpleasant situation. Essentially, if your face didn't fit in that village, they made your life a misery. My dad was born and bred in the place, which I'd rather not name. Not only was my mother from the next county - not a very welcome thing in the eyes of the local hillbillies - but shock and horror! She was was part Irish, and a Catholic at that. To the bigoted chapel-goers of the village, she was a wicked infidel. To make matters worse, she dressed in modern clothes for the times, tight dresses and high heels, instead of work aprons, mob caps and chunky brogues. So to say we were ostracised and mistreated is putting it mildly. But my dad refused to leave. It was his birthplace, and he was the only member of our family who was accepted there. So we ended up stuck there, in a very unpleasant situation.

2. Do you think that the world will be a better or a worse place 100 years from now?

I have no idea. It could go either way. It could deteriorate further into conflict, warfare, poverty, mass criminality, global warming, etc, or people could have such a gutsful of all the bad things happening now, that society could work really hard to eradicate many of these issues. It is so hard to decide. But with the threat of global warming, rising sea levels, etc, without meaning to sound like a morbid pessimist, I can't help but think things may well get worse in a century's time.

3. At the beginning of a relationship, do you trust your new partner unless there is something specific to make you do otherwise, or do you withhold your trust until he/she has earned it?

I don't trust people readily, having been burnt once too often. So a new partner would need to earn my trust. To unconditionally trust someone from the moment they come into one's life, is not just naive and foolish, but could potentially open a person up to all manner of dangers. After all, look what happened to the girls who trusted Ted Bundy when he pretended to have a broken arm and needed help to carry his library books. An extreme example, I know. I tend to take my time to get to know all new people - friends, colleagues, partner, etc. Although I don't advocate total paranoia (oddly enough, it tends to drive people away), the best and most enduring trust-based relationships are forged slowly.


Fleur de Lisa said...

I'm sorry that childhood was so rough for you. That's never, ever easy.

I've been burnt a few too many times myself so trust is slow to come.

Thanks for playing and have a great week!

Holly said...

I'm sorry your childhood was so difficult, that is so sad that people have to treat other people that way! I hope your adulthood is much better! This is my first Manic Monday, so stop by and read my answers if you'd like!

ZAM said...

Sorry to hear about the difficulty you had growing up. I would like to believe-although I don't know you personally-that the past made you a better YOU.

I agree that trust-based relationship are built brick by brick. Sometimes it's just so hard to open up because by then one will be vulnerable.